In your material, you talk about the subconscious getting stuck by trauma and needing the soul’s help to get unstuck. I assume that God is the One who teaches the soul how to help. But if what if someone doesn’t know God? Does that mean they can’t recover from trauma? Since we can’t know who God is until He introduces Himself to us, does that mean that God is blocking people from recovery by not telling them who He is?
We need to be very cautious about the implications we draw from people’s current understanding of God. A good principle to bear in mind here is that God’s influence over one of His own creatures is in no way limited by how that creature perceives Him. This means that God doesn’t need your soul to be aware of His reality before He can help you recover from trauma or any other kind of issue. In real life, many humans who honestly don’t understand that God is real are learning from Him, responding to Him, and quoting Him every day without realizing it. By His own choice, God is intimately involved in every human life even though He doesn’t let us become aware of His involvement at first. When God does give our souls an “aha” moment that He is our Creator, we still remain oblivious to how involved He is in our every day affairs. Even people who think they have a good grasp that God is involved in their lives don’t really understand just how involved He is. Is our ignorance on this subject a problem to God? No, He wants it to be that way. God intentionally keeps us in the dark about most of what He does.
Now because God treats us all a bit differently, people form endless theories about who He likes the most and who He likes the least based on how He behaves. It’s commonly assumed that God is more interested in the souls that He introduces Himself to very early on, while He is the least interested in souls that He seems to “ignore” until their lives are nearly done. Well, that theory is utterly false, as are most theories that try to use God’s actions to assess His motivations.
Trauma is a state of ongoing, intense distress which is fuelled by devastating beliefs. Your soul and your subconscious are both vulnerable to becoming traumatized. They can also become traumatized at the same time. To fix trauma, you need to alter your beliefs so that they no longer seem so devastating. Simply lying to yourself and inventing a bunch of happy guff won’t work. The adjustments you make to your beliefs need to be based on truth, not lies, if the fix is going to hold. We don’t just brainwash ourselves out of trauma by chanting happy mantras. We must analyse the logical structure of our current beliefs, identify the flaws in that structure, and make strategic adjustments. This is a process that God helps us with regardless of whether we acknowledge His involvement or not.
I want to caution you against making the very common mistake of assuming that God has negative motivations for hiding His reality from someone for a long period of time. From the Divine perspective, trauma doesn’t happen by accident. Terrible circumstances are intentionally brought into our lives by God for the purpose of benefitting us. But the kind of benefit God is focused on has to do with our souls thriving in the long-term. And this is where things become very complicated…
Spiritual Maturity Mechanics
Spiritual maturity is an extremely complex topic that can quickly overwhelm us if we take on too much too fast. So I’m going to keep the focus very narrow here and oversimplify things so we can learn some helpful principles.
God created your soul to perpetually mature over a very long period of time. From the human perspective, the soul is designed to live through many different lifetimes, with each of those lives being lived out in a different kind of world. From God’s perspective, the reason He keeps transferring our souls on to different worlds to collect more and more experiences is to move our soul through different stages of maturity. A useful analogy here would be how humans develop. When you’re a baby, you need different kind of handling than you do when you’re a young child. When you’re a teen, your needs change again. To raise a human well, parents need to keep adjusting their care to fit with their child’s current needs. In a similar way, God makes strategic changes to the kind of environment He has your soul living in. In this world, no one dies early and no one dies late. Every soul departs from here exactly when God wants them to, and where He places those souls next depends on where they are currently at in their personal development when they leave here.
Now once you understand the big picture, it changes how you view your time in this world. From God’s perspective, He is very purposeful in the way He arranges for your life to unfold here. Different souls have drastically different experiences of life on earth. Some of us are having a fairly easy time of it while others of us are having a horrific time, and still others are having a blend of the two extremes. God doesn’t just drop your soul here and leave you to wing it. Every world that God creates is designed to provide souls with certain kinds of experiences, and those experiences can result in specific kinds of growth opportunities. There are lessons that your soul can learn in this world which it would not be able to learn elsewhere, and vice versa. So the very fact that you are here at all is very intentional on God’s part. Having your soul spend time on this particular planet is a strategic part of His bigger plan for you.
Experiences play a big role in God’s plans for you, because experiences result in growth opportunities. From the Divine perspective, traumatic experiences can be extremely beneficial when it comes to helping your soul make significant progress in its own development. From the human perspective, trauma is horrific and we want to recover from it as fast as possible. From the Divine perspective, recovery that occurs too soon can rob the soul of growth opportunities. The question then becomes, how much benefit does God want your soul to gain from going through trauma?
The moment God begins to show you the path to recovery, significant changes occur. You might think of it like baking a cake. Once you remove the cake from the oven, it will start to cool, and that will prevent it from cooking any further. From the perspective of a baker, it’s a bad thing to take a cake out of the oven too soon, because the final result will not be as good as it could have been if it had baked a bit longer. God has a similar perspective when it comes to helping you recover from various kinds of problems. There is no problem that enters your life at random. All problems are brought into your life by God, and He has specific reasons for both the type of problem He introduces as well as when He introduces it. After a problem enters your life, you react to it, and you are affected by it. Once this process kicks off, it’s rather like a pan of batter being slid into an oven. Now it’s just a question of when that pan should be taken out again. Ideally, God wants your soul to gain maximum benefit from every problem He brings into your life, and that means He doesn’t want to open that oven door until He knows the batter is fully cooked. But there are complications with this plan. God is very merciful and compassionate, and He also wants you to have some degree of influence over your own development. If you respond to God in certain ways while you’re in the oven, He is likely to pull you out early. You will see that as a relief; He will see it as a loss. You are focused on feeling better today; God is focused on helping you become the best that you can be in the long-term. Often our priorities clash with God’s priorities for us, and when this occurs, some compromise must happen. Either we submit to His preferences for us and endure more time in the oven, or He decides to respect our wishes to be removed early even though He understands how much that will harm us in the long run.
Now until God reveals a solution to your problem, you have no way to fix it. Here is where we come to the issue of why God refuses to reveal any solution to some people who are suffering terribly from trauma. There are many cases in which severely traumatized people never find any real help for their problems until they reach mid life or even later. From the human perspective, this seems like a tragedy–a life that was “wasted in pain.” We tend to think that such people “missed out on so much happiness” just because they were never taught how to deal with their trauma effectively. But is this how God sees it? No.
As long as God blocks you from understanding how to recover from your trauma, He is preventing you from making an early exit from that oven. From God’s perspective, withholding the understanding you need to recover is a way of protecting your soul from losing out on certain growth opportunities. Sometimes God gives us the option of leaving the oven too soon, thereby gaining little to no benefit from our misery. But other times God refuses to give us the option of self-sabotage. He forces us to remain in the cooker for a very long time, until He sees that we have reached a point of gaining maximum benefit from our pain. Only then does He begin to introduce the principles of true recovery to us, and at that point we can choose to work with Him or not. God does not force recovery on us. He always gives us the option to choose or reject what He is offering us. But by not introducing that choice until we’ve after we’ve spent a very long time baking, God ensures that we still have the chance to greatly benefit from the pain we’ve been through–a chance we would have lost if He’d allowed us to recover sooner.
Now as I said, this is complex subject and I’m oversimplifying things on purpose. Not every problem requires a long time in the oven before maximum benefit can be gained. There are many cases in which problems are designed to be brief, with resolution coming very fast. So don’t assume that quick recovery is always a bad thing, because it’s not. Things are far more complicated than that. Some problems are meant to be brief, others are meant to drag on. Then there is the additional issue of problems stacking on each other. Let’s talk about that for a moment, because this is another topic that is relevant to your question.
Stacking Problems & Strategic Combinations
When God introduces problems in your life, He can introduce them one at a time, or He can introduce them in groups. If He introduces a single problem, then allows you to fully resolve that problem before He introduces the next one, you will gain a certain kind of benefit from going through that experience. But if God were to bring a second problem into your life before you have a chance to deal with the first one, their combined influence on you will alter what kinds of benefits you can glean from going through all of that misery. Here is where stacking problems becomes another way for God to help your soul to mature. But to give you the maximum benefit from the experiences you have in this world, your problems need to be stacked strategically. Timing is essential, but so is the type of problem that God chooses to combine. Trauma coping methods are a good example here.
Every mind and soul has a unique personality. The way your soul will try to deal with the stress of being traumatized will be different than the way my soul will try to cope with the same trauma. The same is true for our minds: they will each respond differently to the same kind of trauma. Now from the human perspective, let’s consider a man who exhibits a short temper due to the fact that he is very stressed internally. Because he is so stressed inside, he acts very angry on the outside, and that makes him a real pill to be around socially. Soon this man’s hot temper gets him fired from a series of jobs. Then he becomes an alcoholic. Then he becomes even more violent. Then he starts doing drugs. Then he starts physically attacking people. Then he murders someone. Now he’s in prison. From the human perspective, this man’s life has been a tragic, downward spiral. From the human perspective, this man passed up many opportunities to “get his life together” and now he’s done irreparable damage to others so we shouldn’t feel sorry for him at all. But what does God see?
Perhaps God has been intentionally blocking this man from understanding the principles of recovery. If this is the case, then the man hasn’t really “passed up many opportunities” to fix himself, because he never had any. It’s only now that he’s in prison that God begins to educate him about how true recovery works. Why has God delayed? Well, we’ve talked about the timing issue and how sometimes God refuses to give us the option to escape the oven early. But by now our man has also experienced several different trauma coping methods. He’s become addicted to various drugs, he’s assaulted others, and he’s even taken a life. From God’s perspective, this is a strategic combination of experiences. The fact that our man has a history of doing all of these things is going to have a direct, positive impact on how much benefit his soul can glean during the process of recovery if the man is willing to cooperate with God through that process. From God’s perspective, if He had intervened during the alcoholic stage, before the new drug addictions had been introduced and before the man had fallen into a habit of physically attacking others, then the man’s recovery process would have resulted in fewer soul gains. From God’s perspective, He wanted the man to experience a certain combination of problems before He introduced recovery.
When you understand that there is a very complex Divine agenda unfolding behind the scenes in every life, it changes the way you view trauma symptoms and trauma recovery. It also helps you understand that you are not in a position to judge whether someone else is being a “slacker” or not. I’ve had clients who were not ready to recover. Their souls wanted to, but their minds were completely blocking the process. I’ve had other clients whose souls were unwilling to pursue recovery. Blocked recovery is a real thing, and in these situations, we need to remember that there is always a bigger agenda going on. I can teach people the principles of recovery, but only God can make that information “click”, and only God can give traumatized elements the resources they need to move through the stages of recovery. When He withholds the resources, a person cannot move forward, even if they want to, and God does withhold resources far more often than religious communities are willing to admit.
Since you can’t see God’s “master plan” for your life, the wise move is to focus on submitting to Him. Ask Him to make you all that He wants you to be, because what He wants for you is far better than you can imagine. Since God wants us to have a say in our own development, He will not force us to mature. Instead, He gives us the option of stagnating and regressing, both of which have negative consequences for our souls. The bottom line is that we cannot reduce God’s involvement in our lives, and we cannot thrive without His help. But our Creator cares about our well-being far more than we do, so if we surrender ourselves into His hands, even though we will go through periods of being deeply distressed by the way He is treating us, we are guaranteed to end up in a fabulous place. In the end, it is the Character of God that ensures we will always end up feeling rewarded for putting our trust in Him. Despite His ability to seem utterly monstrous at times, the fact remains that He is a very good Creator (see Why God is Good (From the Human Perspective)).
This post was written in response to J.